I don’t do revenge.
I believe life has a constant force. The force you exert on others is the force that will go back to you. Sometimes it may not be back directly but it will always find its way.
This was written by a lady on http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2011/01/07/on-forgiving/.
I believe this, even though I haven’t got any particular examples to site here. It makes perfect sense.
What if someone stole from someone. The person who had his/her thing stolen would be very angry, naturally so. But, would the right thing to do be to go and break into their house and steal something of theirs? No! Why?
1. That makes that innocent person now a thief as well as the original thief. What has changed? Nothing. It has made matters worse because now there are two criminals instead of one.
2. What does the innocent person gain? They might feel better, hahahahaaarrrrrr I’ve got my money back, BUT what does that money represent? Is it REALLY their money? Will they really feel better about themselves when the initial rush of the act has worn off?
3. If the original thief finds out who it was, won’t they want to get revenge on the revenge? When will it end? In someone getting arrested, hurt, killed?
Surely it’s best to get to the bare root of the scenario. WHY did they take the money? Maybe they are starving, maybe they needed it for medicine…who steals money for fun? There has to be a serious reason. The only way to prevent these things from happening is to get to the root cause and try and find a solution. If it’s not rcognised, it will continue……it’s much like taking aspirins for headaches…isn’t it better to find out WHY you’ve got a headache and get it fixed, than to just DISGUISE the problem?
Actions brought on by anger and bitterness will never solve any problem or conflict. If revenge is the only solution then people will just do worse and worse things to each other and all understanding and communication will be lost. The only way we can stop people from doing things we don’t like is to tell them why we don’t like it and if they continue, we will not share our lives with them.
”How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”
– Wayne Dyer
The best way to treat someone who has done you wrong is to be kind…..not overly so, just enough for them to see that you are not going to let them ruin your day/week/life and that you are evolved enough to understand that actions have consequences. If this makes them wonder, then good. If it doesn’t then it’s not your problem. They are not evolved enough to realise this. They will reap what they sow in time and maybe learn from it. Your job is to get on with your life and make sure YOUR karma is good!